Pampering and caring may appear similar but one can tell the difference in the result. Caring is flavored with future consequences and has a hard cover of discipline. Stubbornness of the person one who cares for is dealt with detachment. Caring happens by set of principles, agreed by both parities - the one who cares and the one he/she cares for. In the end, systems bring sweetness in relationships.
Pampering is sensual in nature. It is all for the body, willingness to make any arrangement for the cared. It welcomes affection and spontaneity. But discipline comes across as unfriendly and abusive in the way of pampering. Its philosophy is to be present-oriented, no worries about the future, the consequence. Such so-called love is sure to create confusion, conflict and cluelessness and generates callousness in the person’s behavior. Dhratarashtra pampered his children; Kunti cared for her children. The result was unimaginable incoherency and coherency respectively. That coherency bred Dharma and the opposite bred the opposite.
Duryodhana was thoroughly indisciplined and therefore was imprudent to the concept of future and consequences. Pampering in his formative days led him to blackmail everyone, including his Guru, grandfather and of course his father, who was most willing. But the laws of coherency, Dharma and nature are fair judges. They give you what you must get; if you resist, they insist; if you try to escape the law, they escalate the law.
Yudhishthir always bound himself by discipline, almost making others feel that he was obsessed with it. But it was that discipline that freed him from being affected by the most adverse of situations. He lost his kingdom so abruptly but he was still the master of his surroundings. He was thus most eligible to govern the kingdom and rule for the benefit of his praia.
We have the option to be pampered now and punished in the
future, or we have the choice to be disciplined and experience continuous
clarion call of freedom.
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