INTIMATE TO ANTI-MATE

There is always a  debate in regards to how to interact with your mate?  Be it your girl friend ,boy friend, wife, husband, teacher, student, or parents.

Respect in realtioniship leads to distance in understanding.
Informatlity in relationships leads to indifference to rigidity.
Intimacy in relationship leads to
1.Inner understanding of your mate.
2.It gives free flow unrestricted love.  3. It allows us to be cool, trendy, and guilt free in our natural shortcomings.
This is the modern, progressive dynamic persepective.
This is the claim of the generation of current times.

The traditionalists retaliate-
1.Present respect in relationship leads to future intimacy.
2.Future intimancy leads to deeper understanding.
3.Deeper understanding leads to respecting the difference and never breaking the relatioinship.
4. Formality leads to orderliness, and allows mates to stay within the limits and creates the success of a good legacy.

The modernist will criticize the traditionalist by saying:
a)In the  name of respect there  is no  freedom.
b)It is dictatorial, one sided and does not allow the growth of younger people.
c)Men abuse women, children are abused by teachers, and  parents teachers abuse their children and students.
So let there be free flow, without any restriction it is free love rather  than forced bondage.

The traiditonalist say all this free flow creates
a)Chaotic situations,
b)No one takes responsibility for any one.
c )In case of marriage there is increased rate of divorce,  and the children suffer.
Intimate relationships in  school and in  colleges with lack of respect  leades to anti-mate.

Gita allows dialogue between student and  teacher Arjuna and Lord  Krishna.
Vedic wisdom is the combinatin of :
1.freedom and discipline
2.intimacy and repsect
3.formality and informality
4 respect and intimacy.

Sita in the Ramayana was very intimate to Rama to the extent, when Sri Rama was hesistant to take her to the forest, she quipped, “ I think my father has married me to aman only from outside.”    Sita at the same time  never crossed her limit to become disrespectful.

The concept of traditionalism was the concept of application of principles to make it work.
Many were not able to implement the principles, but that's not the fault of the principle rather it was the fault of the people who did not know how to apply.

Many students commit suicide in professional colleges when they cannot handle the stress.
Is that the fault of the  college or the student who could not take the stress?
Do you choose to close the school, or the college because  a student commits suicide?
If we chose to close the school or college it would be suicidal would it not?