PRYING TO FRY

Monitoring, meddling, mediating, or mentoring have the same action  at its core but the results  of each action are completely different. 
Monitoring a small baby  is a sign of concern, affection and care.
Meddling as the interrogating officer in the dispute is healthy and expected.
Mediating, as the expert in conflict resolution leads to cooperative living amongst the people.
Mentoring  heals the distress of the disturbed.

But when the child grows up to be a  teenager.....
Monitoring of the father and mother causes irritation to him.
Meddling in somebody else’s affair becomes a rude and discourteous act.
Mediating becomes irrelevant when one of the party does not want it.

Mentoring done without the desire of the mentee brings about no positive gain and  becomes a disqualification of the mentor .
In the Mahabharata Dhritharasthra wanted Maitreya Rishi to mentor and counsel Duryodhana with regards to a compromise.  Duryodhana not  wishing to be mentored did not hear anything.
Instead he insulted Maitreya Rishi.
Duryodhana got no advice  from Maitreya Rishi and on the contrary got  a curse that his thighs
would be destroyed which would be the cause of his death.
Dhristharasthra himself would not hear what he did not like to hear, if any one gave him advice which was contrary  to what he would like to hear he would snap and be upset.

Initally Arjuna was argumentative and overwhelmed with emotions, and when Arjua had the above attiude of" I think I know all" Krishna would not speak,  he would only ask questions to Arjuna.
Only when Arjuna  surrendered and was willing to hear and get good counsel from Krishna did the lord speak, and illuminate Arjuna.
Arjuna  on hearing the gita was enlightened but Dhristharasthra who heard the same bhagvad gita experienced no change.
Teaching is the responsibility of  a teacher, but learning?